Pseudo-boyfriends.
Pseudo-girlfriends.
Flings.
Almost like a relationship, but not quite.
It is a phase where the persons involved
are more than friends, but not quite lovers.
Puwedeng may verbal agreement,
puwedeng wala.
One or both of you may have admitted your
feelings,possible ding hindi.
You just let your gestures do the talking for
you.
Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.
Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.
Pero sa kilos niyo,
sa mga sinasabi niyo,
parang kayo,pero hindi.
This kind of "relationship"
can happen at different stages
for different reasons.
It can happen after a break-up.
You still love each other,
and you want to be with each other
but you broke up for a reason.
And for reasons that you alone know,
ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.
It can also happen before a relationship,
iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam.
Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-
seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.
Testing lang. (tama ba un?!)
Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo
kasi isa sa inyo may ka-relasyon na.
Kaya habang hindi pa siya
nakikipag-break doon sa boy/girl
(sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon
pero di naman niya ginagawa),
wala muna kayong relasyon
para nga naman hindi siya nangangaliwa
kasi "hindi naman kayo."
This pseudo-relationship stage,
for a time, can be fun.
Lalo na kung naghahanap
ka lang naman ng "KALARO."
Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect
na may patutunguhan kayo kze
wala talagang kasiguraduhan.
So bakit ang daming nagse-settle
sa ganitong set up ganoong
hindi naman sigurado
kung may patutunguhan?
Iba't ibang dahilan.
Puwedeng for fun lang.
Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa wala" or
puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom."
Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real
thing,
doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious
relationship,
they would think that pseudo-relationship
is better than no relationship at all.
It would be fun, if all you're after
is that "kilig" feeling.
But then I learned that although it was
only a pseudo-relationship,
the emotions were real.
And usually, in this kind of set up,
merong malulugi..
"ung nainlove sa taong taken na.."
Una, you can't ask him/her to commit.
Since it's not really a relationship,
you can't demand commitment from your
partner.
Ano ba kayo?
You will always be uncertain
about your role in his/her life.
You can't expect him/her
to be always there with you.
And if you feel jealous of the other boys/girls,
you just have to keep it to yourself.
Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Pangalawa, what if
you fall deeply in love with him/her?
You can't be sure if he/she feels the same
way.
Baka nag-a-assume ka lang
na mahal ka rin niya.
Even if you are dying
to tell him/her you love him/her,
you can't.
Because you're not sure
if he/she will like it.
Baka mapahiya ka lang.
This stage will always make you wonder
where you are in the relationship.
Or if there is a relationship at all.
Pangatlo, what if you become attached too
much?
What if you have invested
all your emotions and this man/woman
hasn't?
What if you remain faithful to him/her,
not entertaining other guys/gals,
only to find out that he/she is seeing
other girls/boys?
Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships,
it is fleeting.
When a disagreement sets in,
or when one of you gets cold,
then that would be the end of it.
Unlike in a serious relationship,
hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar
sa isang pseudo-relationship.
Wala kang pinanghahawakan.
Kasi sa pseudo- relationship,
there is no "us."
Meron lang "you and me,"
hindi "us"....
*sigh* what a reality bite.
